Taking a position

Bhaskar, son of `The Kumars at No.42' took on the big cities of India for televison the other day.

In Bombay, he sat to judge Mrs India contest sponsored by Mrs Maureen Wadia where married women are given the same opportunities as their unmarried cousins.
In the question round, the stumper came in the form of ``What do u think of marital rape?'' ( I am almost sure she said martial though, maybe even martian) and the camera shied away from the contestants face and showed Mr Bhaskar grimacing in sympathy.In fact, I felt more sorry for him than for the contestant.

In reply, the girl hemmed and hawed and condemned rapes in all forms, but said she would try to understand.. .was vexed about whether she would walk out of the marriage...no easy answer to that question, even if you have spent lots of time practising in front of the mirror in a swim suit.

The Indian woman is used to cringe factors.Our arranged marriages make us couple with men who were strangers to you till the other day and then expects us to produce healthy babies, in the period of one year or two. What marital rape? Teach us the difference.

From a lay woman’s point of view, sex, many times, can be over the top. When Vatsayan in his kindness left us a rule manual that can be referred to again and again and again, he should have realized the onus of responsibility that he left on women. Sex has become a test of skill in that you need to be alert and when its time, grab the packet from the night stand and quick as a fish, slip it on the drunken husband. If only he came to you proficient with the skill which would make this skill worth it.

As for motherhood, try putting your feet in stirrups , ‘the pelvis up ward back bone straight relaxed position’ of a gynaec exam - the only place where the angled view of a curious head is not a treat. It is a torture that many women undergo and gladly because more than the exciting patter of baby beats within you, your mother vouches that it is a great and fulfilling experience and the culmination to being a woman and your mother-in-law should be pleased too.